I Conceived Naturally at 41 - Here Is What I Did Differently...

EMMA HAWES
2026-03-16T14:31:51+00:00

I conceived naturally at 41 after a two year journey through grief, subconscious healing, and deep embodiment work. Here is what I did differently — and what I wish someone had told me sooner.

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I Conceived Naturally at 41 — Here Is What I Did Differently

When I decided I was ready to become a mother, I was in my early forties. I was healthy, I had always taken care of myself, and I believed it would be straightforward.

It wasn't.

What followed was two years of one of the most challenging, transformative, and ultimately beautiful journeys of my life. A journey that took me deep into the jungle in Costa Rica, into the hidden layers of my subconscious, through grief I didn't know I was carrying — and eventually, into the arms of my son Elias, conceived naturally at 41.

I am not sharing this to offer you a formula. I am sharing it because I believe women deserve to hear stories like this. Stories that exist outside of the clinical narrative that tells us our fertility falls off a cliff after 35.

It doesn't have to be that way.

Here is what I did differently.

1. I stopped treating my body as a problem to fix

The moment I shifted from fighting my body to listening to it, everything began to change. Your body is not working against you. It is communicating with you. Every ache, every irregular cycle, every hormonal shift is your body whispering its truth.

When I began to meet my body with curiosity rather than frustration, I started to hear what it actually needed.

2. I went deeper than the physical

Fertility is not only physical. It is emotional, mental, energetic, and spiritual. This was the most important thing I discovered on my journey.

I was carrying grief I didn't know existed — from this lifetime and others. Grief held in my womb space that was quietly signalling it wasn't safe to conceive. Until I addressed that grief, no amount of supplements or cycle tracking was going to shift things.

If you have tried everything physically and nothing is working, I gently invite you to consider going deeper.

3. I worked with my subconscious mind

As a quantum hypnotherapist, I had the tools to go into my subconscious and uncover the beliefs that were running silently in the background. Beliefs like:

I am too old to conceive naturally

I don't deserve a baby

My body will fail me

These weren't conscious thoughts. But they were shaping my reality. Once I began to rewrite these stories at a subconscious level, something shifted.

4. I regulated my nervous system every single day

When the body is in a state of stress — even low grade, chronic stress — it receives a signal: this is not safe. Not now. Conception requires a felt sense of safety.

During my journey I consciously returned my body to safety every day. Breathwork, meditation, yin yoga, time in nature. Not as luxuries but as medicine.

5. I cleansed and nourished my physical body

Living in Costa Rica, I used what I had. Superfoods to support my hormones and clear heavy metals. Olive oil massaged into my belly. Yin yoga designed to open fertility meridians. I began to treat my body as a temple — not a project to fix, but a sacred vessel to tend to.

6. I trusted my intuition above everything else

Before I conceived Elias, I dreamt of him. Over and over, I saw myself with a baby boy. My intuition told me clearly — this child was coming. Even when the test results were mixed, even when my partner's logical mind couldn't understand, I trusted myself.

That deep inner knowing was my anchor throughout everything.

You are not behind. You are not broken.

If your fertility journey has felt long, lonely, or like your body is working against you — I want you to know that your story is not over.

Fertility isn't linear. It moves in spirals, waves, and rhythms of its own. And sometimes the path to becoming a mother asks us to go deeper than we ever expected — into our bodies, our emotions, our beliefs, and our souls.

That journey changed my life. It became my book, Fertility Isn't Linear — a companion for women navigating this path with more awareness, more self-compassion, and more hope.

If something in this post has resonated with you, you might like to download my free guide — 5 Holistic Practices That Supported My Natural Pregnancy at 41. It's a gentle starting point for wherever you are on your journey.